Your attitude changes your reality

Written by Paul on July 1st, 2008

This is the eighth in a series of posts about the lessons I wish I’d learned earlier in life.

I was talking to a friend of mine last week and somehow we got on the topic of a new business idea. A few minutes later, he cut me off and declared, “This is never going to work. It takes money to make money and I don’t have much of that.” I wasn’t sure how to respond so I asked him why he’d turned negative all of a sudden. His response: “I’m not being negative – I’m being realistic.”

I’ve heard that before.

Bright sun over a beautiful island

Here’s the thing though – find all the negative people you know and ask them about their attitudes. You’ll notice that they never view themselves as negative people.

What I’ve noticed is that negative people tend to adopt a defeatist mindset while positive people focus on creating opportunities. It’s also interesting to note that you don’t see a whole lot of successful people with a negative outlook on life. People who are focused on the negative almost always find a way to talk themselves out of pursuing interesting opportunities.

For a moment, let’s pretend that I’m going to give you a business idea that you think is great. Which response are you more likely to have?

Response “A”: “Starting a new business is too expensive. I have a mortgage, a car payment, blah blah blah. I can’t afford to shell out any additional money right now for start-up costs. I certainly don’t want to give up any of the fun money I stash away for entertainment and boozing!”
Response “B”: “Guess I’ll cut out my morning latte and a few meals out each week for a while to free up money in my budget. Small sacrifices now will be well worth it after I’ve put in the hard work and can watch my new idea grow.”

Now, which response is more likely to get you ahead?

If you find that you tend to lean toward the negative, don’t beat yourself up. Change your attitude up – start focusing on creating opportunities for yourself and the rest will take care of itself.

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7 Responses to “Your attitude changes your reality”

  • Many years ago I was working in the Pentagon in a very high stress job. Most days I had to be two or three places at the same time, write papers quickly, accurately and know that at least one person who was really good at it was going to chew me out today. I was on my way to a meeting, late and unprepared when someone asked me, “How is it going?” I gave a growl and then stopped dead in my tracks. I knew that that reply would frame my attitude and that attitude would be mine for the rest of my life. I took a break I could ill afford to and from that time onward, whenever someone asks me how things are going I reply, “Every day is a good day.” It’s gotten me through some very difficult times including cancer. I borrow my attitude from that saying and somehow, Every day IS a good day.

    — 07/18/08 at 4:55 pm

  • DeenuoubmixWob

    Thanks for posting this!

    — 08/02/08 at 10:47 pm

  • Diana D. Jarvis

    I smiled at Bruce’s comment. I once worked in a federal government office for a subcontractor. There were a lot of older men in the office who were close to retirement. When asked how things were going, they frequently replied, “Every day above ground is a good one.”

    — 08/05/08 at 7:14 am

  • Dan

    Nothing beats a well grounded attitude:

    — 11/13/08 at 8:52 pm

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